The Cognitive Restructuring of the Learner’s Mind

You’ve heard the term, “think positive”, also known as reframing.  Cognitive restructuring is a newer term used by mental health professionals, and therapists, but put simply, cognitive restructuring means to change your experience by changing your thoughts.

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Change the way you feel by changing the way you think.
~Christine Pedesky, author, Mind Over Mood

You've heard the term, "think positive", also known as reframing.  Cognitive restructuring is a newer term used by mental health professionals, and therapists, but put simply, cognitive restructuring means to change your experience by changing your thoughts. #quotes #journal #positive #dreams

I Know, But…

We’ve all grown up hearing about positive thinking at some point or another. Most of us tend to embrace the concept, until… the phrase is tossed our way over something we’re struggling with. Proffered advice, especially the unasked for kind, tends to elicit responses that sound something like this:

“Yeah, right. I know but…”

“My problem with that [solution offered], is…”

“I’ve tried everything, and nothing works.” / 

The Curse of Knowledge

The problem with many social memes and sayings we’ve heard all our lives is that we’ve heard them all our lives. We think we know it so well that we don’t even think of it. Hear the term, and you’re likely to say, “I know.”  Because, well you do… theoretically. It’s another angle of the “curse of knowledge” concept in academia.1)https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Curse_of_knowledge

We all know what “positive thinking” means in the same way we all know what regular exercise means for our bodies. As with fitness, knowing what to do and employing that knowing regularly are often two strangers that never meet in reality.

The difference between knowing versus doing what you know to do, is the difference in the level of success you’ll achieve.
~LeAura Alderson, iCreateDaily.com

We all know what "positive thinking" means in the same way we all know what regular exercise means for our bodies. As with fitness, knowing what to do and employing that knowing regularly are often two strangers that never meet in reality. #positive #achieve #goals #dreams

The Failing of Familiarity

Like the road well traveled on your daily route… sometimes you don’t notice the scenery or even remember the name of the street because you know it so well. Or think you do. Subsequently, with familiarity, we can be lulled into thinking we know all about something, and in so doing, there’s much we can miss.

If you want more success in your life and business, it’s time to take another look at the restorative power of reframing.

Reframing cultivates the wonder of “The Learner’s Mind”.
~LeAura Alderson, iCreateDaily.com

Like the road well traveled on your daily route... sometimes you don't notice the scenery or even remember the name of the street because you know it so well. Or think you do. Subsequently, with familiarity, we can be lulled into thinking we know all about something, and in so doing, there's much we can miss. #quotes #dreams #goals #learning

Cognitive Restructuring Refreshes and Regenerates

Whenever you’re struggling with something, how you phrase your questions and comments, and where you place the emphasis can make all the difference. If you’re perceiving as a victim of circumstance, that is a powerless position. A student of life, is an empowered position. Here are two sentences, sentences that say the same thing, but depending on the emphasis can mean something entirely different. E.g.:

“How do you HANDLE this???”

“How do YOU handle this?”

Naturally, these can vary in interpretation, depending on the tonality with which these are read or thought. However, in general, based on the emphasis alone, the first question places emphasis on the issue that seems difficult or even unbearable. I.e., “How can you even…HANDLE” kind of thing.

The second approach is simply an inquiry, summed up more as “Hmmm… I wonder what you do that I can learn from?”

These are two VERY SUBTLE differences, yet they add up.

To perceive as a victim of circumstance, is a powerless position.
A student of life, is an empowered position.
~LeAura Alderson, iCreateDaily.com

Naturally, these can vary in interpretation, depending on the tonality with which these are read or thought. However, in general, based on the emphasis alone, the first question places emphasis on the issue that seems difficult or even unbearable. I.e., “How can you even…HANDLE” kind of thing. #empowered #positive #quotes #journal

How to Reframe

Imagine a day where you’ve shifted all of the disempowered language to empowered language.

From the helpless, overwhelmed victim thoughts to the confident, stoic, peaceful thoughts of a learner’s mind settled into being a lifelong student of life.

Reframing is your mind gym, and if you do it regularly, your mind—and emotions—get more fit.
~LeAura Alderson, iCreateDaily.com

Naturally, these can vary in interpretation, depending on the tonality with which these are read or thought. However, in general, based on the emphasis alone, the first question places emphasis on the issue that seems difficult or even unbearable. I.e., “How can you even…HANDLE” kind of thing. #empowered #positive #quotes #journal

 

The Reframe Game

Reframing—like most personal development—is easier said than done.

So make it a mental game… a puzzle to solve. Tune into your speech, what you say and how you say it. Then, when you catch yourself in negative words or speech, make a game out of changing it.

Here are some examples of reframing. You will be able to add your list to this. In fact, send us an email with your reframes. We’d love to see them!

Reframe Examples

Comment: It’s hot/cold today.
Reframe: So grateful for air conditioning/heating!

Comment: I didn’t sleep well last night.
Reframe: I’m grateful for the sleep I got.

Comment: I’m not satisfied with my painting.
Reframe: What can I add to this to make it better, (now or in future)?

Comment: After all my hard work, my book isn’t selling.
Reframe: How can I sell more books? Who can I talk to? What are other successful authors doing?

Comment: I was on tech support for hours.
Reframe: So grateful for the privilege of first world problems that have support systems available.

Comment: Ugh… I’ve got so much to do and laundry to fold.
Reframe: So grateful for the convenience of a washer and dryer, and for clean clothes to wear.
Reframe: So grateful for this era of abundant opportunities!

Reframing is Just a Habit

As you can see, cognitive reconstruction, is not a difficult concept at all and is a practice that can be applied to any area of life. You’ve heard the “glass half empty/half full”, concept. That phrase, like the term “think positive”, has been used so much, that like a longtime spouse or friend, we can tend to take it for granted.

Reframing is just a habit, and like any other habit, takes a little time and consistency. Refresh and reframe your thoughts and you will refresh and reframe your life. It begins there and picks up positive speed.

Positivity compounds with interest. Invest in it.
~LeAura Alderson, iCreateDaily.com

Naturally, these can vary in interpretation, depending on the tonality with which these are read or thought. However, in general, based on the emphasis alone, the first question places emphasis on the issue that seems difficult or even unbearable. I.e., “How can you even…HANDLE” kind of thing. #empowered #positive #quotes #journal

You Are the Average of the Five People…

If your friends and relatives rail at your new positive endeavor, that’s normal. It’s typically because of how “change” in a loved one threatens their own habits and comfort zone which can cause them to face their own issues before they’re ready to. We’ve all been there.

Consider something you might be working on, such as needing to lose weight (which applies to about 80% of the US population today): Let’s say you’re meeting a friend for lunch at a favorite restaurant with your favorite “treat” meal or dessert, and you’re looking forward to that experience. But when you sit down and open the menu in anticipation, your friend informs you that she’s going to eat light because she’s dieting. Ah man!! How can you now fully enjoy your treat meal under these circumstances?

The Struggle of Uneven Growth

Marriage

Adolescents are known to be awkward, clumsy and volatile, not only because of hormones, but also because of uneven growth. The same thing can happen in relationships.

Many marriages struggle from this concept. One person is ready for a growth spurt, but the other isn’t, and subsequently resists, and sometimes even sabotages, the growth-ready spouse’s efforts. Same thing in friendships.

Friendship

Your friends who aren’t ready to grow, may find it hard to fully and enthusiastically support you when you’re ready—because they feel their own lack—but they’re typically there to commiserate and console if you falter.

So be positive without being annoying. They may not be ready. Until then, love and understand them, but do not let them drag you down or dissuade you from your resolve to transform any stinking thinking.

Be positive without being annoying. They may not be ready.
~LeAura Alderson, iCreateDaily.com

Naturally, these can vary in interpretation, depending on the tonality with which these are read or thought. However, in general, based on the emphasis alone, the first question places emphasis on the issue that seems difficult or even unbearable. I.e., “How can you even…HANDLE” kind of thing. #empowered #positive #quotes #journal

Find Friends Who Will Help You Grow

If we are lucky, we have friends and loved ones who are eager to grow with us. If you don’t yet have that mentality amongst your relations, find new friends and networks who can help you grow more fully into all that you can be. Level up.  At each spiral of life, grow into new relationships that keep challenging you to rise ever more fully into yourSELF.

We grow stronger through ascending. Take the stairs. Rise into your vision of yourself.
~LeAura Alderson, iCreateDaily.com

Naturally, these can vary in interpretation, depending on the tonality with which these are read or thought. However, in general, based on the emphasis alone, the first question places emphasis on the issue that seems difficult or even unbearable. I.e., “How can you even…HANDLE” kind of thing. #empowered #positive #quotes #journal

Reframing Trains Your Mind

Reframing, is another habit that moves you closer toward personal excellence by training your mind to support your dreams. A powerful side effect of this reconstructive surgery to your mental processes is in how it increases self awareness. As you begin to tune in to your own thoughts and listen to your own words, you are also expanding your awareness.

Reframe your frustrations into learnings and your earnings will grow.
~LeAura Alderson, iCreateDaily.com

Naturally, these can vary in interpretation, depending on the tonality with which these are read or thought. However, in general, based on the emphasis alone, the first question places emphasis on the issue that seems difficult or even unbearable. I.e., “How can you even…HANDLE” kind of thing. #empowered #positive #quotes #journal

The Neurogenesis of Success

Success mindset, can keep your mind agile and growing, even as you age. This process is called neurogenesis.

“If we want to improve our long-term memory, learning capabilities, mood, and emotions, we should act in a way that encourages our natural process of neurogenesis.”

“Neurogenesis increases when we:

Excerpted from an excellent article by Bella on TheLearningMind.com.

Reframing trains your mind to support your dreams.
~LeAura Alderson, iCreateDaily.com

Naturally, these can vary in interpretation, depending on the tonality with which these are read or thought. However, in general, based on the emphasis alone, the first question places emphasis on the issue that seems difficult or even unbearable. I.e., “How can you even…HANDLE” kind of thing. #empowered #positive #quotes #journal

Mindset is Everything

The one person singularly responsible for proliferating the concept of “growth mindset”—which has everything to do with reframing—into our societal mass consciousness, is Carol Dweck, author of Mindset – the New Psychology of Success. If you haven’t yet read Mindset, we highly recommend it. For an introduction, you might also enjoy this article.

Sign up to be a lifelong student in the curriculum of life.
~LeAura Alderson, iCreateDaily.com

Naturally, these can vary in interpretation, depending on the tonality with which these are read or thought. However, in general, based on the emphasis alone, the first question places emphasis on the issue that seems difficult or even unbearable. I.e., “How can you even…HANDLE” kind of thing. #empowered #positive #quotes #journal

What you emphasize in your life makes all the difference. Of one thing I am certain. If you grow your capacity to reframe negatives into positives through cognitive restructuring, you will never regret it.

Put on a learner’s mind when you get dressed each day and your life will change for the better.  ~LeAura Alderson, iCreateDaily.com

Naturally, these can vary in interpretation, depending on the tonality with which these are read or thought. However, in general, based on the emphasis alone, the first question places emphasis on the issue that seems difficult or even unbearable. I.e., “How can you even…HANDLE” kind of thing. #empowered #positive #quotes #journal

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Lynda Suzanne Wright: “I’ve (we’ve) tried everything, and nothing works.” Yep, used to hear this one all the time. How about it’s corollary “I (we) tried that once, but it didn’t work!” I know you are writing about learners, but this is also great advice for leaders. One of my favorite administrators used to say, “if the system you are using is not producing the results you want, you must change the system. Powerful. Thank you!”

Our Reply: YES, Lynda!! Excellent points! Definitely also for “leaders” because the best leaders remain ever learners! Thank YOU!  💜

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