Feeling Stuck? Determination Ends Stagnation

Getting Out from Under Overwhelm

Everyone goes through it at some point or another. Feeling stuck in a rut, stagnant, overwhelmed and even trapped in life. The good news is that it’s actually easy to turn it around.

As I was updating this article to share, I received some negative news that floored me. I went from happily working away to sudden fear, doubt and uncertainty. So I did the four things I know to do. It was tough… it didn’t happen instantly, but it  always helps.

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Four Steps to Getting Unstuck

  1. Move vigorously
  2. Help somebody
  3. Create Something
  4. Practice Gratitude

Activity, creativity, servitude and gratitude turns pain to pearls.

1. Vigorous Movement

We’ve shared about this in other articles because it’s so vitally important. The Robbins-Madanes Strategic Intervention coaching I was trained in, founded by Tony Robbins and Cloe Madanes, emphasizes this as well. To move—and move vigorously—shifts you to a more empowered state.

When you change your physiology, you change your state to positively charged.

2. Help Somebody

There’s almost always someone else who’s worse off than we are. Whenever you feel paralyzed, depressed, overwhelmed or just stagnant, get out of your own head and into your heart. It could be people, pets or plants… or even to care for and restore something, whatever it is… the helper is helped in the helping.

Nurturing nurtures.

If you don’t know of anyone to help immediately, there are other things you can do, such as go on social media and make nice and helpful comments to your friends’ sharings, and in groups you belong to.

If social media tends to make you feel worse when you’re feeling stuck, then call a friend and go out for a spontaneous coffee together, or invite friends over for some wine and a board game.

Contribution brings an orienting perspective that opens your heart and replaces worry, fear and negativity with calm, positivity and possibility thinking.

To help someone is to also help yourself.

3. Practice Gratitude

Gratitude moves your awareness from can’t to can, from fear to faith and from negativity to positivity. We cannot adequately express gratitude and anger or angst at the same time. Like contribution, gratitude is an orienting and balancing medium for getting unstuck.

Some of the ways to practice gratitude is to write down three things that immediately come to mind that you’re grateful for. Then three things that you might have to think about to remember.

A lovely activity that combines both contribution and gratitude, is to write a handwritten card or note to someone and mail it. Getting a handwritten letter or card of appreciation always boosts another’s spirit and brings a smile. Writing it, will bring that smile to your face, and receiving and reading it will bring a smile to theirs.

To become grateful is to soften the edges of angst and remember blessings over bothers.

4. Create Something

Creativity is a clearing house for negativity. If you’re a writer, start writing… even if it’s all randomness. If you’re a sketcher or painter, start that.

Usually, to engage in your favorite medium of creativity will help you shift into your zone of genius and dissipate your stuck feelings. However, if that fails, then create something completely different.

Cook something… stack stones… give yourself a manicure… create order by cleaning and organizing… anything productively creative, will help shift you from where you were to more of where you want to be.

Creativity sparks positivity, and creating fans that flame.

Human beings are manifesting machines, and we’re manifesting either consciously or unconsciously.
~LeVar Burton, American actor, presenter, director and author

Get Going with Goals

If you don’t have a to-do list, grab a notepad and start one. If you’re not sure what has the most priority of the things on your list, don’t worry. Just start writing down all the things that would help you move forward in your goals.

Get the clamoring troops of to-dos out of your head and onto paper (or digital document). You can give them their marching orders later. For now, you need to clear them all out of your head and where you can see them before you can begin to organize and prioritize them.

The fastest way out a slump is to simply do the next thing that most needs doing.

If you’re not yet sure about your goals and don’t have a goals list, you might find this article helpful.

One of the many great things about working a goals planner is that when you get stuck or have a brain blip as to what’s the next most important thing for you to do, you’ve got your checklist.

Setting goals is akin to lines on the road… they keep you on track and heading in the right direction.

The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret to getting started is breaking your complex, overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks, and then start working on the first one.
~Mark Twain, American writer, humorist, entrepreneur, publisher, born Samuel Langhorne Clemens, 1835-1910

How to Get Unstuck?

Momentum annihilates stagnation. The best way to get out from under overwhelm is to get started. Movement is critical for breaking the cycle of feeling stuck. Movement is the antithesis of stagnation.

The fastest way to jumpstart your creative engine and get moving in the right direction is to start with the most important thing on your list. Once you start there the rest gets easier. Starting with the most important thing will lighten your mental load tremendously and free up energy and bandwidth to do more.

Similarly, if you end up finished with your list before the day’s over, go ahead and do one more thing, or, refine and elaborate your plans for the next day.

Starting with the most important thing is recommended, however, if you’re really feeling stuck in overwhelm, then you may need to start small instead. It may be that you’re a toe-dipper rather than a diver.

Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.
~Wayne Dyer, American philosopher, self-help author, motivational speaker, 1940-2015

Do You Dive in or Dip Your Toe?

If you still find yourself feeling stuck and unable to move forward on the hardest or most important thing, then perhaps easing into is a better fit for your personality. If you’re the dive in sort, then tackle the most important thing first. If you’re the toe-in to test the water type, then you may want to start with the first easy task.

Either way you’re getting started and you’re moving forward. Motion ends stagnation. If you’re moving forward you’re not likely to be feeling stuck.

Movement is literally the opposite of being stuck. Getting goals done is empowering and energizing. The effect is that the more you do the more you’re able to do.

Physics reveals that the more you do, the more you’re able to do.
~LeAura Alderson, iCreateDaily.com

 

This Universal Law Will Get You Going

The Law of Motion states: “A body in motion stays in motion; a body at rest stays at rest.”  At first it may require more effort and fortitude to get “that body in motion.”  This law is real, and can be to your benefit or detriment, for the other side of that law is “A body at rest stays at rest unless enacted by an outside force.”

That “outside force” you must engage is determination and perseverance, and… to just “do the work.” This process absolutely works, IF you apply it! This is where “don’t think just do it” may come into play.

The more you do that’s on your task list, the more energy you will have to do the next thing because motion picks up momentum. Success picks up speed. As you become unstuck, your perspective of what’s most important for you to do toward achieving your goals will shift. You can continue to update and tweak your list as you go.

Success compounds and picks up speed.
~LeAura Alderson, iCreateDaily.com

Focus on What You Want

Most of us are guilty of “stinking thinking”, especially when it comes to thoughts of ourselves, our work and what we feel we’re capable of doing. Perhaps we’ve encountered that critic’s voice in our head such as the “Who do you think you are…?” kind of thinking.

It’s hard to do your most creative thinking when you’re feeling stuck in overwhelm. Often you can sidestep the creator’s abyss by simply reframing the issue.

The issues that stress us and the fears that haunt us, rarely come to pass.
~LeAura Alderson, iCreateDaily.com

Don’t Feed the Fear

Fear and stress zap creativity. The issues that stress us and the fears that haunt us, rarely come to pass. Defeating language can trap you in a negative mentality, without ever being aware of it.

Often when we’re feeling overwhelmed, it’s because we’re focusing on the wrong thing; on the problem instead of the possible solution. On what we fear or don’t want, rather than on possibilities or positive action. On the defeat rather than the victory.

By dwelling in that darkness we die a thousand deaths.
~LeAura Alderson, iCreateDaily.com

As indicated earlier in the ‘Four Steps to Get Unstuck‘, the fastest way out of fear and overwhelm is through gratitude. Gratitude opens the area of our brain that connects us with creativity, joy, love and… art. Art expressed from this place brings light and beauty to a world in need, and frees us to create more, do more, be more.

Gratitude lightens and brightens a heavy heart.
~LeAura Alderson, iCreateDaily.com

Connect with Other Creators

Do not struggle alone. The best way to stay on track is to surround yourself with others who are working in similarly creatively endeavors. If you have friends and/or family who have similar aspirations to you, that’s fantastic. If not, then it’s important to your success to connect with a supportive social community such as the iCreateDaily Facebook community of creatives.

There are many other creator communities as well, in any area of interest to you. Just be sure that you focus on success and progress. Focus on what’s working and not on what’s not.

We’re cheering for your success. You can achieve your goals, one step, one action, one day at a time. If you need help setting and achieving your goals, you may find the 90 Day Goals Journal helpful for doing just that.

Here’s more on getting unstuck and breaking through creative blocks.

Determination ends stagnation.
~LeAura Alderson, iCreateDaily.com

 

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Hello! I’m LeAura, an autodidactic former homeschooling mom, self development advocate, entrepreneur, author, ideator, web publisher, and podcaster, passionate about helping others achieve their best possible life!

I love people, creating, and good conversations on creativity, growth, development and entrepreneurship. So co-hosting the iCreateDaily podcast along with my daughter, Devani, is one of my favorite things to do.

I’ve trained and certified in mediation, strategic intervention, marriage and family coaching as well as a fitness trainer, and participated in many courses and workshops over the years.

Today, the synergy of creating websites, articles and podcasts, brings together all my favorite things: learning, growth, creating, connecting and contributing. To share these with you is a privilege, that serves my lifelong aspiration to help others.

My personal areas of creativity are in writing, masterminding, ideation and bringing ideas to life through business and entrepreneurship.



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