We can never underestimate the power of gratitude to transform tough things into tolerable. Two forces for good—gratitude and kindness—are free and easy to apply.
Perhaps that’s the problem.
We can tend to discount things that are too simple as being ineffective. Yet isn’t that what many of us crave more of in this era of rapid change and complexity?
The simplicity of gratitude can expand the heart, elevate the mind and heal the wounded soul.
We can never underestimate the power of gratitude to transform tough things into tolerable.
~LeAura Alderson, cofounder-iCreateDaily.com®
January, 1995, Poor Indian Village Outside of Delhi
Six of us walked along the rutted dirt road lined by hovels of stucco homes without glass or screens on the windows, though most had shutters to close up at night.
We were in training and getting acclimated to live in poor village conditions before being assigned our service destination. Two adults—my husband, Coleman and myself—and four teens aged 12-19, for five weeks of a “third world” service experience.
In front of us a slender young mother in the customary and ubiquitous sari walked gracefully, carrying a baby in one arm while a toddler walked on her other side, grasping her mother’s hand. The toddler was wearing a shirt, but no bottoms. Diapers would be a luxury available only to the middle and upper class.
As the young mother approached a puddle of brown water in a huge pothole in the middle of the dusty road, she squatted down and scooped water from the puddle to splashed on her toddler’s bottom. Then she stood up and continued on her way, elegant in her posture, demeanor and colorful sari, despite her circumstances.
She did what she had to do, using what was available. Dirty water from the street for washing her toddler’s bottom was better than none at all.
Positivity Over Negativity
We’ve made it through tough times before, and so we shall again.
In order to embrace what is, we must let go of what isn’t, and discover the gifts in the present.
Let us focus on the gains and not the gaps, on gratitude for the MANY good things that remain each day.
Practice over perfection. Progress over passivity. Positivity over negativity. Wins.
Not All Roses And Sunshine
In our family, over the years, and in current times, we’ve had MANY setbacks and losses… too many “Madoffs”, Ponzis and fake gurus, mistaken investments (right thing—wrong time, or wrong thing—right time).
We’ve had unthinkable and unbearable family happenings, and heart wrenching rifts.
Roses come with thorns.
The circumstances of our lives do not define us… unless we let them.
~LeAura Alderson, cofounder-iCreateDaily.com®
I Am Not My Pain
During these times, it’s so easy to spiral into fear, worry and doubt, anxiety and anguish, hopelessness and loss.
However, that is not who we are. The circumstances of our lives do not define us… unless we let them.
Instead, these things have resulted in greater empathy and unplanned growth in new directions that have led to good things. This story is still being written, and we are the authors.
It is no accident that every story is a hero’s journey. Including your own. You are the hero of your story, and this is your journey.
These are passing storms, and yes, some storms leave their mark and wreak havoc and damage. We must vent and mourn. Shouting at the storm and crying over the wreckage helps… but only at first.
Then it’s time to take action on the next best thing we can do.
The Pain of Birth
Birth is the first hint of things to come on this magnificent blue planet. Our very first lesson is to push through the hard stuff… the constrictions, the pain, the contractions.
Push and breathe… rejoice and cry… for every struggle births something new, if we will but focus on the birth and not the pain… on the life and not the strife.~LeAura Alderson, cofounder-iCreateDaily®
You Are Not Your Circumstance
No matter our personal circumstances, they do not define us. We are not our circumstances. We can always rise above and into our best possible selves.
And there is always something for which to be grateful.
Focus on the Good and You’ll See More of That
It’s just that it’s too easy to see what’s missing… what’s wrong… what’s hard, and to focus on that. Instead, remember to focus on the good and the gains, and truly, they will grow.
An attitude of gratitude can transform state and fate.
~LeAura Alderson, iCreateDaily.com®
Focus on the Gains not the Gaps
We first heard this ‘focus on the gains‘ concept from Dan Sullivan, cofounder of Strategic Coach. This is also such a simple thing, that is extraordinarily effective. To focus on the gains…on what’s good in your life is to automatically invoke gratitude.
Remember, gratitude works, it’s powerful and it’s free.
“Gratitude is the light that opens the blossom of the heart from which the seeds of kindness grow.”
~LeAura Alderson, cofounder-iCreateDaily®
Gratitude Jar for When You’re Down
For the days when it’s hard to muster gratitude, try this:
Whenever you’re feeling especially upbeat and positive and in love with life, make a gratitude list of anything and everything you can think of for which to be grateful. From toothpaste and showers to warm beds in winter… loved ones and furry friends… sunrises and songbirds. Everything.
Now you have your go-to list for when you’re feeling down and can’t seem to muster anything for which to feel grateful.
If you have time, cut these gratitudes into little “fortune cookie” style strips, (folded or open), and place them in a jar. Then on those days when you need a kick in the gratitude you can pull one or more randomly from the jar to help you change your state.
You can even buy gratitude jars to jumpstart your collection.
Making the Impossible Possible – Ed Mylett with Nick Vujicic
“I’m not comparing my pain to you, but I have no arms and legs. And I had a choice, to either be thankful for what I had, do my best and take one day at a time, or give up.”SOURCE: Nick Vujicic with Ed Mylett
~Nick Vujicic, born without limbs, author, b.12/4/1982
Inspiring Thoughts from a Millennial Thought Leader
We are grateful to the many inspiring thought leaders in the world today who are putting this message out there in various ways. One such is a millennial with the most powerful life story and message worth tuning into over and again.
For a profound life perspective, please do yourself a favor and watch or listen to this entire interview below. You will be glad you did.
If we magnified blessings as much as we magnify disappointments, we would all be much happier.
~John Wooden, Basketball player & head coach-University of California
Hal Elrod with Tom Bilyeu on Impact Theory
This is a do-not-miss conversation. In fact, it’s to bookmark and revisit whenever you need a pick-me-up.
You can find Hal Elrod’s website here.
As with all commandments, gratitude is a description of a successful mode of living. The thankful heart opens our eyes to a multitude of blessings that continually surround us.
~James E. Faust, author, religious leader, lawyer, 1920-2007
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