Self Sabotage and the Law of Attraction

The Insidious Nature of Self Sabotage

We had a neighbor who really wanted to connect with everyone in the neighborhood. She created a neighborhood watch, a neighborhood contact list, welcomed new neighbors, walked and picked up trash and weeded at the subdivision entrance sign. She would also send emails to everyone on occasion to keep everyone apprised of things of interest or concern.

 

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This neighbor was the kind most of us would appreciate having, but for her self-sabotage habits that got in the way. It was inadvertent. It usually is. Very rarely do any of us set out saying “I’m going to self-sabotage”.

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Self Sabotage is Unconscious

All self-sabotage is unconscious and thus inadvertent. But it can negatively impact every area of life and every relationship. That’s what happened to our neighbor. She ended up with fewer and fewer friends, until it dwindled down to none who cared to be around her.

Example of Self Sabotage:

This neighbor…

  • would show up at people’s doors unannounced, at all times of the day or evening
  • would gossip about neighbors, each to the other
  • was always negative about the world
  • always deflected positives with negatives, “Yes, but…”
  • had no personal boundaries around appropriate topics and speech
  • didn’t know when to stop talking; she would go on and on. E.g., “I know you’re busy, but…”

This well-intended neighbor had a number of habits that—over time—repelled the very thing she wanted. She wanted community and connection. She wanted friends, and to be a friend. Instead she repelled the very thing she wanted. Unconsciously, unwittingly, insidiously.

People unconsciously repel the very things they are seeking. Observe. Answers lay hidden there.
~LeAura Alderson, author, entrepreneur, cofounder-iCreateDaily

All self-sabotage is unconscious and thus inadvertent. But it negatively impacted every area of her life and every relationship.

The Law of Attraction and Repulsion

This neighbor is certain to be baffled by how hard she tried and how much effort she put into trying to pull people and things together.  This well-intending lady inadvertently repelled the very thing she wanted, included family, friends and neighbors.

She was trying to do the right thing.

In her world, she was doing good, and certainly, she did good things. Her efforts in all of that were absolutely commendable. However, her patterns and habits of behavior unconsciously drove people away from her.

Her negatives overpowered her positives. Subsequently…she repelled the very thing she was seeking: connection and community.

Replace self sabotage with self awareness… forgiveness… and with LOVE.
~LeAura Alderson, author, entrepreneur, cofounder-iCreateDaily

We had a neighbor who really wanted to connect with everyone in the neighborhood. She created a neighborhood watch, a neighborhood contact list, welcomed new neighbors, walked and picked up trash and weeded at the subdivision entrance sign, and sent emails to everyone on occasion if there was something of interest or concern. She was the kind of neighbor most of us would appreciate having, but for her self-sabotage habits that got in the way.

 

Transmutation Through Appreciation

While this neighbor may be a bit of an extreme case, the thing is that we all do this about something to varying degrees. So if you are not experiencing the abundance or happiness you long for, become a student of observation of your own thoughts and words.

Make it a game and begin to catch yourself whenever you’re uttering negatives or otherwise engaging in thoughts and behavior that will not serve you goals. Laugh lovingly at your antics, recognize them for what they are and let them go and forgive yourself.

We are all children learning this game of life.

We all have these and we all do these. The extent to which we become students of ourselves and learn and improve, is the extent to which our work and life will also thrive.

Shine the light of love upon that which would hide in the shadows of your life. Forgive. We are all humans growing into our divinity.
~LeAura Alderson, author, entrepreneur, cofounder-iCreateDaily

To help you toward that, you may enjoy this article on the Law of Abundance, and also, to consider:

Who will you be when you’re living your dream? Envision your future self. Become that now.
~LeAura Alderson, author, entrepreneur, cofounder-iCreateDaily

 

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