Self Sabotage and the Law of Attraction

The Insidious Nature of Self Sabotage

We had a neighbor who really wanted to connect with everyone in the neighborhood. She created a neighborhood watch, a neighborhood contact list, welcomed new neighbors, walked and picked up trash and weeded at the subdivision entrance sign.

She would also send emails to everyone on occasion to keep everyone apprised of things of interest or concern, such as suspicious cars or new neighbors to welcome.

This neighbor was the kind most of us would appreciate having, but for her self-sabotage habits that got in the way. It was inadvertent. It usually is. Very rarely do any of us set out saying “I’m going to self-sabotage”.

Table of Contents

• The Insidious Nature of Self Sabotage
  • Audio Article – Self Sabotage:
  • Self Sabotage is Unconscious
  • Example of Self Sabotage:
• The Law of Attraction and Repulsion
• Transmutation Through Appreciation

Audio Article – Self Sabotage:

Self Sabotage is Unconscious

All self-sabotage is unconscious and thus inadvertent. But it can negatively impact every area of life and every relationship. That’s what happened with our neighbor. She ended up with fewer and fewer neighborhood friends, until it dwindled down to none who cared to be around her.

Example of Self Sabotage:

This neighbor…

• would show up at people’s doors unannounced, at all times of the day or evening
• would gossip about neighbors, each to the other
• was always negative about the world
• always deflected positives with negatives, “Yes, but…”
• had no personal boundaries around appropriate topics and speech
• didn’t know when to stop talking; she would go on and on. E.g., “I know you’re busy, but…”

This well-intended neighbor had a number of habits that—over time—repelled the very thing she wanted. She wanted community and connection. She wanted friends, and to be a friend. Instead she repelled the very thing she wanted. Unconsciously, unwittingly, insidiously.

People unconsciously repel the very things they are seeking. Observe. Answers lay hidden there.
~LeAura Alderson, cofounder-iCreateDaily®

The Law of Attraction… and Repulsion

This neighbor is certain to be baffled by how hard she tried and how much effort she put into trying to pull people and things together.  This well-intending lady inadvertently repelled the very thing she wanted, included family, friends and neighbors.

She was trying to do the right thing.

In her world, she was doing good, and certainly, she did good things. Her efforts in all of that were absolutely commendable. However, her patterns and habits of behavior unconsciously drove people away from her.

Her negatives overpowered her positives. Subsequently…she repelled the very thing she was seeking: connection and community.

The thing is, we can all do this to varying degrees… inadvertent self sabotage by repelling the very thing we want. If we are seeking abundance or a relationship, but we’re projecting desperation, then the emotion of desperation is more powerful and so that is what we’re more likely to attract – more desperation.

Conscious and consistent visioning of the life we wish to live makes a huge difference in our day, in our life and in replacing self sabotage with self awareness, optimism and success.

Replace self sabotage with self awareness… forgiveness… and with LOVE.
~LeAura Alderson, cofounder-iCreateDaily®

Transmutation Through Appreciation

While this neighbor may be a bit of an extreme case, the thing is that we all do this about something to varying degrees. So if you are not experiencing the abundance or happiness, connections or career you long for, become a student of observation of your own thoughts and words.

Transformation begins with awareness and with gratitude. When we’re being grateful we cannot also be negative or resentful. We cannot be truly grateful and negative at the same time. So put gratitude to work for you whenever your going through a negative experience.

Catch Me If You Can Game

Make it a game and begin to catch yourself whenever you’re uttering negatives or otherwise engaging in thoughts and behavior that will not serve you goals. Laugh lovingly at your antics, recognize them for what they are and let them go and forgive yourself.

We all have these and we all do these. The extent to which we become students of ourselves and learn and improve, is the extent to which our work and life will also thrive.

Whenever you feel yourself in negative tension, pause to reflect, journal, take a walk and meditate on what’s going on within you. Not what’s going on with the other person or the world, but within you. Listen to yourself and talk to yourself. Advise yourself as you would a good friend who asked for your thoughts.

When we pause the usual pattern by stopping to engage our inquiring mind in self discovery, we’re now in a problem-solving thinking part of our brain rather than the reactive, defensive, on auto-pilot self. From that space we are free to explore with interest, the psychological dynamics at play.

Don’t make it a big deal. Nothing’s wrong with you. You’re simply learning and growing and this is the current lesson. Life is an ongoing just a journey of discovery.

We are all children learning this game of life.

Shine the light of love upon that which would hide in the shadows of your life. Forgive. We are all humans growing into our divinity.
~LeAura Alderson, cofounder-iCreateDaily®

Are You Struggling?

Are you aware of any tendency to self sabotage? Do you find yourself periodically cycling in and around the same kind of negative loops or argument, stress or anxieties? What negatives are you experiencing in your life now that are occupying your attention? In these may lay clues.

For instance, procrastination is a common self sabotaging behavior. So if that’s an issue for you, to face that and meditate on what’s behind that could be illuminating and freeing.

The negatives we experience are often just there to get our attention on something that we need to improve.

To help you toward that, you may enjoy this article on the Law of Abundance, and also, to consider this:

Who will you be when you’re living your dream? Envision your future self. Become that now.
~LeAura Alderson, cofounder-iCreateDaily®

“Gradually I came to see that I was just worrying for the sake of choking the flow of positive energy in myself. Worrying was one way I was Upper-Limiting myself.”
~Gay Hendricks, author-The Big Leap, b.1945

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