Consider the aspiring toddler determined to walk. She doesn’t stop because she falls after trying to take the first step. The toddler has no fear of failure. Without hesitation, she determinedly gets up again and again, and keeps on going, no matter what.
But once the child enters school she quickly learns that failure is a bad thing. We’re conditioned from childhood to think of failure as bad. Subsequently, we develop a fear of failure and most shy away from anything that could result in it.
But progress doesn’t happen without mistakes. So don’t worry about it. Don’t fret what others may say or think. This is your life and your aspirations. The rest doesn’t really matter.
If you’ve ever felt the grip of fear clutch your heart, kick you in the stomach, and paralyze your progress, then you know the struggle is real.
But it doesn’t have to be. You used to know how to push past failure. We all did. And… you can again now.
Don’t let doubt do you in.
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Audio Article – Fear of Failure:
Never let the Fear of Failure Stop You
When a young child learns to walk, it’s because he wants to walk; nothing will stop him from walking. The intrepid toddler has no fear of failure. He’s obsessed with walking; and so he does.
Your whole life is really just a series of you “learning to walk”. Every new goal, project, page, canvas, or composition sheet, and every project that falls short, is a lesson and another step forward toward better.
“Don’t let the fear of losing be greater than the excitement of winning.”
~Robert Kiyosaki, American businessman and author
4 Famous Failures – Rejected, Rejected, Rejected, Rejected!
1. Rejected 12 times:
We’ve likely all heard that J.K. Rowlings, author of the famed Harry Potter series, was rejected by 12 publishers before she was finally accepted by one. Today, she is one of the wealthiest women in the world with an entire Disney theme park dedicated to her brainchild. If the fear of failure had defeated Ms. Rowlings, generations would never have known the magical world of Harry Potter, not the namesake theme park visited by over 230 million people each year.
2. Rejected 140 times:
Years ago, Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen were rejected 140 times and told “Anthologies don’t sell”. Can you imagine keeping on trying after the 50th rejection, let alone the 100th?!?
If they had given up, the world would never have known the popular Chicken Soup for the Soul series. That iconic brand has, has gone on to become an entire industry, selling over 500 million copies worldwide, in an wide array of “for the ____ Soul” versions.
3. Rejected for 5 years:
In another story of perseverance, after 5 years of continual rejection, another writer finally landed a publishing deal: Agatha Christie. Her book sales are now in excess of $2 billion. Only William Shakespeare has sold more. If the fear of failure had stopped Ms. Christie, we would never know and be influenced by her brilliance.
And… if he’d listened to the rejection letter, the world never would’ve known about Green eggs and Ham. But because Dr. Seuss did not give up, over 300 million books have sold, earning the rank of the 9th best-selling fiction author of all time. Imagine a world with no Dr. Seuss, and what a creative loss it would’ve been if he had given in to the fear of failure.
“Successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. Don’t wish it was easier, wish you were better.”
~Jim Rohn, American entrepreneur, author and speaker
For every author story above, we can be sure there are as many comparable stories for visual artists, musicians and entrepreneurs. One thing is certain: if you quit, you won’t succeed, so… the only way to lose is to quit. The only way to succeed is to fall and get back up, fall and get back up… over and again; to become obsessed with it and to keep on going until you succeed.
Be the “toddler” determined to get up and walk into the future of your dreams.
~LeAura Alderson, iCreateDaily.com
If you let fear hold you back, you’re letting fear rule—and diminish—your life. So how to let go the fear of failing? Keep getting up, adjust as needed and try again.
Tell fear “NO!”, and let it go. Reframe your mindset and fortify it each day, and that petulant voice of fear will finally give up, shut up, and move on.
Fear may never leave you, but it need never again impede you. Fear cannot withstand the steady pursuit of a determined soul.
~LeAura Alderson, cofounder-iCreateDaily.com
From the Community
“Failing forward“ has become my mantra since I began painting . Every “fail” is still a step forward in my art journey, because I learn something of value every time. It doesn’t stop me or slow me down . It actually compels me to move forward, to do it again and do it better until I get it right.
~Mary Peters Ballesteros, artist
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