Should you focus on your strengths or shore up your weaknesses? Should you do the hardest thing in your day first, or tackle more little stuff to knock it off the list? When it comes to personal strengths and what’s best, you often hear conflicting information.
Experts and successful entrepreneurs alike will often say to “do this” and “don’t do that” kind of advice. Subsequently, it can be challenging to identify the best plan of action for the most personal growth.
The reason for the confusion is that there’s no one solution for everybody, including you. What worked for you last year—or yesterday—may not be what works for you now, or next year. However, one thing is universally true, no matter the area of endeavor or personal strengths:
All growth starts at the end of your comfort zone. ~Tony Robbins
Paradoxical Popular Advice
You’ve probably heard both of these phrases; likely even in the form of advice.
- It’s always best to focus on your strengths first.
- It’s also always good to challenge yourself because that’s how you grow.
You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.
Yes. That sums it up. It’s not one thing. You need to attend to both. It’s true that you make progress more quickly by working within and focusing on your strengths… AND you want to expand that circle of ability by pushing against your own limitations.
Famous pro basketball star, Michael Jordan, has said that shooting hoops from a distance was his weakness. Jordan wasn’t good at distance shots, but he improved it to a master level by constant practice.
However, for most of us most of the time, the best results come from focusing on our strengths. If your game… your career doesn’t depend on doing the things you’re not so good at, and you don’t enjoy those things enough to pursue them, then spend your time working on what you do best and outsource the rest if you can.
For most creatives, the best results come from focusing on your strengths.
We’ve found that it’s best for you to at least learn it first, then you can turn it over. For instance, our family company owns multiple websites. While we know the basics of how to build websites, the tech side is not our strength, so we hire that out.
There are always exceptions. For instance, if your awful with administrative details and numbers and dislike doing it, then take it to an accountant. Learn from the expert what you need to know for the best results for your business, then do that and hand over the rest.
If you’re a visionary entrepreneur and you dislike the details of business management, then you need to find a partner or assistants who are strong in those things that you’re weak in. It’s quicker and easier to hire a consultant to teach you what you need to know for an hour, than to take a course on how to do something you don’t want to do.
Hire a consultant for an hour or so to teach you what you need to know rather than taking a course on a subject you’re not interested in.
If you’d enjoy a podcast on a hard luck story transformed into a fairytale perfect marriage and business relationship, you may enjoy this podcast on Self Made Man. He’s the visionary and ideator and she’s the business mind and systems implementer.
I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed.
~ Michael Jordan
Your Job: decide which boundary you need to push against next.
Your soul guides you to grow. But how does your soul get your attention? Your soul deposits the knowledge you need in inspiration, ideas and in art and creativity. But also in feelings of discomfort; in dips of depression; in irritation… and even in disease.
Being “out of sorts”, can be a misalignment with your core… your essential self. Out of sync with Soul. A feeling of being disconnected from Self; from Soul; from Purpose; from who you really are.
Out of sorts = out of Self. Get back to YOU.
When you evaluate whether or not to do something, you need to be completely honest with yourself. Is it really just not your thing… doesn’t resonate… doesn’t fit..? Perhaps it’s that it’s too hard or uncomfortable. Or maybe it scares you. Whatever it is for you, dive deep into discovery. Hiding from the truth will never serve you.
Take on stuff that scares you. Tackle what’s hard and watch yourself grow. It’s inevitable.
Your soul knows. In your heart, you know. Tune into that channel. That frequency is Truth, it’s station handle is WLUV (“with love”). Probe your core with honesty. Take on stuff that scares you. Tackle what’s hard and watch yourself grow. It’s inevitable.
Then… if you still don’t love it, outsource it! 😉
Humans are born in the throes of pain and the ecstasy of creation. That’s life. Live it with love and courage and you will thrive.
If you’re out of love with self… with others, you’re out of sync with soul. The fastest way to get back in sync is to do the hard things you’re procrastinating. Those things constricting your progress and dampening your joy… those are the shadows blocking your light.
The things you avoid, often blight your day. Face them, deal with them and you will become stronger for it. And remember, facing it can absolutely mean to outsource your weaknesses so you can focus on your strengths. Just don’t avoid it because it’s hard. Face it, deal with it and then move on.
Either you run the day or the day runs you. ~Jim Rohn