If you’re beginning to explore self love affirmations, then good for you!! You’re on the right track! Self love isn’t a narcissistic self absorption. It can be, but that kind of self absorption isn’t really love.
To love yourself as I’m writing about it here, is about respecting and appreciating yourself as you would a best friend. Loving yourself is about forgiving yourself when you fall short or mess up, even as you would forgive a friend or loved one.
In this article, we’re sharing self love affirmations, quotes and prompts toward helping you align to greater self acceptance, appreciation and respect.
What’s Wrong With This Picture?
We all grew up with these worksheets: An image of a scene with the instructions to “Find what’s wrong with this picture.”
Well, that makes sense, because when it comes to associations, we’re genetically wired to see what’s out of place and what’s different so that we can detect danger. It used to be survival. Now if we employ the mindset of finding fault, it becomes a cage that limits our access to the expanded consciousness of the creative mind.
That includes looking for what’s wrong with others and with ourself.
“To always be on the lookout for what’s wrong means we’re apt to miss what’s right.”
~LeAura Alderson, writer, editor, creator iCreateDaily.com ®
What’s Right With This Picture?
But we’re also wired to see what’s right, to recognize the good and beautiful and true.
Regular readers will know that we often repeat the truism that what you focus on grows. Well, it’s proven that social media and Google algorithms are geared to feed us more of what we show them we’re interested in.
If you want more info on how online and social algorithms work, you may find this viral Netflix docudrama illuminating.
This means that our inclination to see more of what we believe is magnified exponentially in the online world that greets us each day. The more of it we see, the more of it is served up for us to see, reinforcing and solidifying our thoughts and beliefs.
This also means that we can easily feel diminished in ourselves and our life as we compare ourselves to the glamour shots of our “friends”. Social media has put keeping up with the Jones’ on steroids. This new world can make it harder to love yourself as you compare what you have or don’t have in the way of friends, possessions, jobs, fun, beauty, etc., are or aren’t doing.
Social media can easily lead us to finding what’s wrong with this picture when it comes to ourselves, IF… we let it. IF we focus on what’s wrong rather than on what’s right. On doubt and self hate versus self love, appreciation and respect. IF we forget all the many wonderful things for which to be grateful, and IF we dwell in the negatives and get pulled into the latest shocking news.
Love yourself enough to nurture your mind with healthy thoughts and content.
Seeing Is No Longer Believing
Two people in the same town can search the exact same term online and receive completely different search results if they have different interests, beliefs, buying habits and political affiliations. Same thing on social media. I don’t see the hate speak going on because I never click on it, so it isn’t served up to me.
The old saying, “Seeing is believing”, is no longer valid. Today, it is more like “Believing is seeing.” This also means that if we’re lured in by shocking statements and conspiracies and the usual rumor mill out of curiosity, the next time we’re online the algorithms will be geared to feed us more of what lured us in.
These are known facts of how the free services we use work. With the free social platforms, we the users are the product, our attention delivered to advertisers and anyone with an agenda that they’re willing to pay for. This is not a conspiracy, this is just how things have evolved based on human inclination and the need to feed the hungry social machines.
However, the effect can be detrimental IF we’re not in control of our attention and consciously choosing what we allow into the fertile ground of mind.
So please, please guard your precious time and attention, your creative spirit and mind with positivity. Love yourself. Do not get lured into the many traps that would snare your attention into the endless “what’s wrong with this picture” scenarios.
Stop the onslaught of negative news and the global rumor mill that is designed to polarize, divide and alienate us, because “bad news sells”.
Focus On What’s Right
We’re all genetically wired to scan for what’s wrong. For our hunter-gatherer ancestors, searching for what’s wrong was essential for survival. We can see this especially evident in the animal kingdom, in the way our dogs scan the neighborhood on walks, or stand on the deck looking out and across the terrain for movement and sniffing the air for signals.
Physical evolution takes a very long time.
Now, as humanity becomes more conscious, we are learning to recognize that we have a choice and that we have the power to even transform our biological programming. It is our evolutionary destiny to become more conscious creators.
Toward that, transformation begins by asking, “what’s right with you today?” It’s akin to practicing gratitude, for gratitude focuses on what’s right and good.
So focus on what’s right, beginning with what’s right with you.
Run through at least three gratitudes:
“I am so grateful for _______.”
Then acknowledge yourself for something good and positive about yourself. Love yourself as you would a friend or family member.
“I love you and I so appreciate that you ________.”
Then the rest of the day, focus on what’s right with the picture of the moment or the picture of the day. Ignore the hysteria and fear mongering of the mass media and social machines whose #1 aim is to capture and keep our attention.
Remember to Love Yourself
And remember the one important thing that’s right with the picture of your day is you.
YOU are what’s right with the picture of your day today. You are in it, and if it isn’t yet great, then you can make it so. Better, is only a thought and action away. Never underestimate the power of your thoughts to turn your day around.
If you turn your day around, you turn your life around, for the day is ever the way.
Protect your psyche from the evil of negativity. Stand guard at the gates of thought, let not your inner sanctum become polluted by the wicked webs woven by the miasma in the media.
Thank yourself for your aspirations and creativity. Thank your body for carrying you through this life. Ask your body’s forgiveness for not always being there for her/him… for not always loving and treating her/him with kindness and acceptance… with the proper nourishment, exercise and maintenance.
Love yourself for not being perfect and thank yourself for trying. Forgive yourself for not always measuring up to your vision for yourself, and remember the opportunity in today to turn things around.
YOU are what’s right with the picture of your day today. And if you’re not, you can be.
Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others.
Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval.
Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.
~Lao Tzu, ancient Chinese philosopher, writer, 6th cn. BCE
“Forget the mistake. Remember the lesson.”
Love Your Body
Many of us — especially women — grew up hating this or that about our bodies. This typically begins around puberty and pursues us throughout our first few decades; sometimes longer.
Often, we outgrow it. Sometimes remnants remain. Toward healing that within you, here’s a creative prompt, should you wish to engage it.
CREATIVE PROMPT: Love Your Body
Write (draw, paint, etc) a piece (poem, essay, article, illustration), about gratitude and appreciation for your body.
“Dear Body, Thank you for…”
“Dear Body, I Love You…”
“Dear Body, You’ve always been there for me
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